Con: Online Dating is Too Risky


Illustration by Refentse Maselwa

For some, online dating is just too dangerous. (Images used with permission)

Refentse Maselwa, Staff Writer


A million and one thoughts race in your mind.


You are sitting at a table waiting on a blind date.


They can literally be anyone.

They can literally be the last person you see that night.

Matters of the heart have always been hard, and the steps leading up to it make it even harder. Dating in person is an over complicated process, and things that could be made easy aren’t always The scariest thing about dating is trust. If men and women can be murdered by their spouses that they have been with for years, what makes anyone think that a stranger that you speak to or have spoken to on the phone, maybe for years, would give you the same respect and courtesy to not lie to you, stalk you or kill you.

It sucks to see headlines like, Woman lured on Tinder date chopped into 14 pieces by twisted sex cult killers or Man Who Police Say Used Tinder to Hunt Women Is Charged With Murder.

Even earlier this year there was a movie released called The Tinder Swindler about a man who extorted money out of women by leading them on under false pretenses.

The things that people should be worried about should be compatibility and possible lifestyle choices. The minor harmless information like: “Do you like pets?” and “What’s your favorite sport to watch?” isn’t nearly as important.

Yet every time a person goes on a blind date, they are told to be careful and carry pepper spray or a weapon to protect themselves. The kind of protection most men need for a date does not involve life and death. Well, it may involve life–but for men, protections involves preventing a life–not ending one.

Even when you wait for the person to show up, there are doubts about being there. Some may leaving before the other arrives. If that was not enough now women have to be cautious with their money and time.

Though there have been people who have found their soulmates online, we cannot disregard the many bad experiences and dangers of online dating. At one click of a button, you are able to pull up hundreds articles of murders and kidnaps and people being drugged and raped.

“You can really see the differences in the level of fear going into online dating. Guys’ number one fear with online dating is turning up at their date and the girl is a bit bigger than her picture — chubby. Whereas women’s number one fear is that they’re going to get murdered,” Hampton Yount, comedian said.

It would be funny if it weren’t so true.